When we move into a new neighborhood, building or city block, we always wonder who are our new neighbors. Finding the time to introduce yourself is usually left to chance. After a move, there's just so much to do that we often leave getting to know the neighbors until last, and more often than not, it's something we never do. Knowing your neighbors, however, provides a safer community, one where people are looking out for each other. Besides, you might just make some really strong, long-lasting friendships.
Use Your Front Yard, Porch, BalconyWe'll all busy and getting to know people in your neighborhood takes time. So, what I like to do is to mix our everyday activities into ones which may promote introductions.
Instead of hanging out in the backyard, why not spend more time in the front yard? Whether it's reading a book or magazine, enjoying a glass of wine or trimming the hedge, being out in the open naturally leads to conversations with those passing by, coming home from work or leaving for the evening. This used to be the way houses were designed; a large porch in front for those warm summer nights where parents could sit and watch the neighborhood children (and their own), play. I think we need to take back our front porches and start rebuilding these social ties that are so desperately missing.
If you don't have a front yard or a place to be outside, spend time on your balcony or a common space such as a neighborhood park or city bench.
When I lived in an apartment in the heart of the city, and because I didn't have a proper balcony (it was too small to hold even one chair), I would take a lawn chair down to the front and read. I really did it to be outside, but I soon found that others started to join me and very quickly it became a regular gathering. Not only did I get to know people in my building, but others who lived in the same neighborhood.
Shake One Hand a WeekWe moved into a new neighborhood and city last year. And like most people, we were swamped with unpacking, settling in and getting started in new jobs and schools. I was determined, however, that we would get to know the very diverse areas we had moved into. So, we set ourselves the task of shaking at least one new hand per week. We made it a priority on Thursday evenings to take a little something to a new neighbor's house (homemade jam, tea, plant cuttings to the gardener, etc...), introduce ourselves and have a small chat. We always kept to the doorstep, never venturing inside, simply because it's always best to remember that some people are more private than others. It was enough just to let them know who we are and that we're around if they needed anything.
I found this method to be the most effective. It was in approaching each house separately that we found the older woman three houses down who was unable to leave her home and had issues with retrieving her mail and cutting the hedges in front of her home. If we had simply waited for people to come to us, we never would've met this wonderful, sweet woman. Now we spend time there, making sure she's okay, helping her out when she needs it, and in turn, she bakes the most scrumptious cookies!
I highly recommend taking just 15 minutes a week to shake one new hand.
Others have told me that they also host a picnic in the park, where everyone brings enough food for themselves, then they switch and share baskets. Another great idea that requires little coordination and effort.
What to Do If You Don't Have the Time or EnergyFor many of us, time is so valuable that just thinking about doing any of the above suggestions, makes us feel overwhelmed, while others are more shy and introverted and couldn't possible partake in any of the previous ideas. For you (and me, too, sometimes), I suggest to simply try to get to know two neighbors. It doesn't need to be a formal get-together or a formal introduction, but just a gesture so that you have some kind of connection. I once wrote a note and attached it to a jar of homemade jam and left it on a neighbor's porch. I introduced our family, said where we lived, and that we were around if they needed anything. It was simple and brief and in return, we found some really great friends.
You don't need to do much. Just a wave and a smile can make a huge difference.