While moving is hard on most members of the family, this kind of major change is especially difficult for teens; leaving behind friends, teachers, mentors and a neighborhood that they may have grown up in, adds even more pressure to an already stessful developmental stage.
There are ways that you can help your teenage son or daughter make a smoother transition to their new home that will open up a point of discussion and allow them to feel part of this major decision to move.
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I am moving and angry
I’m 14 and i’ll be moving this year. My mom and little sister are all for it, But i don’t want to go. Even thought we will be moving about 10 min away from my house that i’m living in now, this neborhood is were all my friends are. I wont be able to hang with them because my mom is always busy with the babys and she wont let me walk to my friends or ride my bike there. All the freedome that took me years to get, all gone because i’m moving!
It could be worse. I’m 15 and trust me I know everyone at my school. I’m not exactly popular but I make an impression on people. I’m moving all the way from Florida to Tennessee. My mom and I don’t want to go but my stepdad does and she always gives in to what he wants.
I’m moving in the middle of junior year. I’ve grown up in this neighborhood, I love everyone here, I’ve been going out with the same boyfriend for three and a half years… I am going from. A small town in michigan to chicago… I won’t know anyone and its scary and sad.
after living in the same place for seven years and growing up with the same people and friends, it’s really hard to move away DURING FRESHMAN YEAR. plus, the stress and pressure of a highschool student is enough. it’s pretty sad.
I will be moving from the house I grew up in, away from my school district, and possibly out of the state. I know people have it worse off, but I just don’t know what to do because when I move I’ll be only able to stay in contact with two or maybe three really good friends and I am very anti-social so I won’t make new friends easily. I don’t know what I’ll do… right now all I can do is cry and help my dad be less stressed out.
I’m 13 and I’ve lived my entire life living half an hour away from the city, in a small town. Now I’m moving from the only house I’ve ever known.
It sucks.
Our family moved due to financial reasons—my husband got a great job offer clear across the country. We have 2 kids, a boy who was starting his sophomore year in high school, and a girl, starting 6th grade middle school. We have felt SO guilty for moving but it was the best financial choice for us. We really had no other options. We are doing well financially and live in a nice neighborhood, great schools, nice people, no crime. We are all still adjusting–of course it’s been hard for all of us to start completely over. I feel your pain kids—but let’s hear how you dealt with your new schools, making friends, feeling sad and missing old friends and all. We’ve been here 6 months now and things are still hard. My kids have made a few friends but still feel so new and different and lonely.
Im only 13 and my family is thinking about moving this summer to Florida if my dad gets the job. We aren’t selling our house just getting a new one and living in Florida. I dont think my mom knows how much this is going to kill me if i leave though. Im still dealing with my best friend since 2 moving to texas, im going to leave some of my great friends, im going to leave everyone i have grown up around since first grade and go to a school where they have grown up with each other and i wont know anyone there! i dont want new friends! i have lived in this house for about 5 years. It wasnt such a big deal to move when was little, but know i could almost cry at the thought of it. But i know there isnt any way i can convince them otherwise.
My family moved this summer. right before my 8th grade year. we moved to a different country. i dont know the language. it sucks. i miss my friends
I’m 13 and I moved from Ohio to India. I don’t like it here.
No one knows me and they think imweird.
Ugh im moving from maryland, the place ive known since i was 2 to Florida. Im ahead of all math and reading classes and I mighht have to take some classes at the high school. I have a ton of friends and Im going to just about die leaving! Im moving right before 8th grade. Everything will be differnt. I feel like my parents dont understand even though my mom tries to care, she acts like I am just making this worse for her. It was her freaken choice in the first place! ugh. This sucks.
Im moving back to TX from FL summer before sophomore year. IM EXCITED! but scared about meeting new people. Im friends with a lot of people, and people know me, but im scared
I’m moving in two weeks from naples, fl all the way to New Jersey. I was all for it when my parents told me that there was a possibility last year, but i have gotten so close with my best friend this year since we went to different middle schools. We were so excited to spend highschool together, but now since i’m moving everything has changed. Since i reconnected with her in 7th grade she has introduced me to all her friends who are really great and funny and i finally felt like my life was perfect, until i realized i’m going to have to move and spend my freshmen year with people i don’t know. I can’t stop crying, my best friend even begged my mom to let me move in with her family, but of course that only happens in like disney channel shows. I can’t stop crying, i’ll miss everyone );
I’m gonna be a junior next year in the us and my parents are saying that we might move to freaking Canada next year. I’m doing really well here, very high gpa, tons of ap classes, very close friends, amazing extra curriculars. I ve been planning on enjoying my senior year and going to an ivy league/top ranked school and had everything planned out and it feels like my life is falling apart and I have no idea what’s gonna happen after highschool and I won’t have the same friendships. My parents dont have a choice but I can’t help the fact that im resenting them sooo much right now I don’t even know what to do with myself.
im 14 nd im moving from la alll da way 2 new york. it suks alot, i wont even be on da same coast
I’ve said that least 3002048 times. The problem this like that is they are just too compilcated for the average bird, if you know what I mean
I am moving from Missouri to Elko, Nevada! It will be scary, but I need a change(:
I just turned 14 and i’m in the middle of my eighth grade year. I have not made the best choices since my parents split…i’m moving about 20 minutes away from where i spent my entire life in…all my friends are there and i’m really popular at my school. I started seeing a girl and we split because of this move. I can’t see any of my friends untill I get my stuff together.
Im 13 and My parents split and I haven’t made the right choices. So my mom got together with a old high-school boyfriend, so now we moved two hours away from my home town, my family, my old life, my horses, everything. And everynight I.cry myself to sleep, I’m seeing a counseler but that isn’t helping at all. I don’t have any friends to talk to except for the ones I meet online, I just need to talk to someone who actually understands What I’m going through other then random ppl saying” yeah I understand” or “oh I’m sorry” or something What everyone says. .
I’m 12 and I’m moving froom all my friends to a different state! I moved before but that was in the 4th grade. I really don’t wanna be the weird girl in the 7th grade that no one knows.
I’m 14 and in two days I’m moving from the house I grew up in all my life in Florida all the way to Tennessee
my house is up for sale and im really upset. i hope i dont move far
My mom droped the bomb yesterday that we are moving from MI all the way down to TX. I have to leave all my friends and its like 4 weeks untill the end of 8th grade so i wont even get to grauate 8th grade with the people I know. ):
I’m 13, an eighth grader, and my Dad has a potential job offer in Texas. I live in California atm. I’m Homeschooled, so you’d think that if we end up moving there, it’d be easier, since I don’t go to school and see friends everyday. But it just makes this harder on me. I’ve all but forgotten how to make friends, and when I do meet people for the first time, I know for a fact that I seem nerdy, and, more than likely, hyper. I suppose I think I feel the need to impress new people I meet with my knowledge, instead of my old, laugh-at-everything self. I try to be upbeat about moving, especially around my mom, because the situation would be much better, financially, for my family (Not to mention, medically, for my Bro, who has some medical issues). However, I’d be leaving everything I ever knew behind. All I’d have left would be my knowledge and awkwardness, not to mention I’d be starting there as a freshman in highschool. The friends I have atm are the friends I’ve had since Kindergarten through 3rd grade. I barely see them as is, but to move to Texas? Plus, I’d be leaving the only sport I’m good at, snow sports, and my brand new niece, who just turned a few months old. All I’d have to fall back on would be my knowledge. I know it’s not the end of the world, but I feel like I’m just starting to rekindle a couple of friendships that have been down for a while. I’m not gonna go into the whole “why me!!!!” monologue, however I don’t feel like my old self anymore. I feel like my entire universe is school, and if I moved I’d be known as the nerdy one. I’m not shy in the slightest, but I do have my shy spells. I suppose I would end up throwing myself even further into my school work, and not taking any time to have fun along the way.
This neighborhood is where I’ve grown up my entire life, made all my friends, become socially awkward, and made all the teachers love me.
But, it’s in God’s hands, and whatever He wants, is what’s gonna happen.
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NYAN.
I hear you, Nyan. Not the easiest thing to go through. My niece is close to your age, and I know there’s nothing that could make her move away from her present location, even though where she lives is probably no where as nice as California. Good for you if you can do this and keep an open mind. Remember you are who you are wherever you go, and no one can take that away from you. I’ve moved a lot, and I always find that keeping an open mind and focusing on the good stuff can really help. All the best, Nyan.
Diane.
I moved from sunny California to rainy Washington. I left my life. Friends, church, everything. It was super hard and got a little easier because I’m going back for a little in a couple of weeks but it still hurts so much. I don’t like it and I agree with everyone on here. Moving sucks and it hurts.
Hi I am 18 years old
Girls boys I no how y’all fell you sound sad and alone but moveing is not so bad here are some things that helped me with my move
1 stay positive
2 just because your moveing its not GOODBYE
3 get all your friends together at the last night before or like a week before have a sleep over
4 don’t be mad at mom or dad
5 give friends enformashine on things like your number house address and don’t say goodbye
6 Get exsited and exsept change cause if you don’t it will never get better
I’m 13 and I have lived in the same house in the same neighborhood with the same friends all my life and now everything I know and love is being ripped away now that we have to move to Louisiana! I hate it and my friends all hate it too and because we’re moving I have to leave my sister behind because she has to stay here for college and I love her soooooo much she is like the best sister ever and now I have to leave her and its so not fair I have been crying for months…